Dating in the Northwest
Posted on March 29, 2017
“I’m giving you up for Lent” and “You’re going to have to be a big girl, and learn how to take your charge when your hands are caught in the cookie jar,” are just some of the last words my ex said to me on Ash Wednesday 2 weeks ago. To even say that he was my ex gives us more credit than what we were. We never did the official boyfriend/girlfriend title thing and when I moved across the country from New Orleans to Tacoma 3 months ago we decided to have an open relationship. Going through a breakup is never easy, add that on top of being 30, in a new city, unemployed and living with your parents- it’s mental mind f%$*.
Meanwhile, nothing makes me more happier seeing my twin sister frolic at fancy Mardi Gras balls, wearing lavish gowns with her boyfriend of many years. Matter-of-fact, I hooked them up. I was lying in bed one day when the overwhelming feeling came over me that Amanda and Ronald had to meet. I then went to her room, told her how I felt and they’ve been together ever since. Seeing her happy and in a relationship makes me question my character flaws when it comes to dating- like maybe I give up to easily?
Dating in the Northwest is just as bitter as the weather. Like the cold rain that hits your face on a dreary bleak day- it bites. The frigid temps keep people indoors and nightlife is as dry as the skin under your layered winter clothes. However, on the rarity that the sun does peak its head (like when you think you found that special person) The Pacific Northwest is the most beautiful place on earth and there’s no place else you’d rather be.
Having lived in the New Orleans for more than a decade you notice the limitless shades of browns around you. The PNW is the complete opposite. It’s a melting pot of Asian, Caucasian, Native American, Pacific Islander and a touch of African American- making dating outside your race more prevalent here.
When I talk to my single 30 year old friends the common consensus is that dating at this age is difficult, scary and at times awkward but worth it. We’re ready to settle down, have a family and hope that the person we’re talking to is on the same page. This is an uncomfortable feeling, but being uncomfortable is a good thing! When you’re outside our comfort zone that’s when you grow. This concept goes with relationships, jobs and simply being a better you. It may not be easy, take it one day at a time and go out on a limb because that’s where you get the best fruit.